Have you ever found yourself being able to clearly see the solution to other peoples problems... but not your own. It's as if you can cut right through all of the guesswork when it comes to a difficult decision for someone else. Yet, you find that when you are confronted with a problem that you have a direct relationship too, your judgment becomes cloudy.
Why do we second-guess ourselves?
The answer may be our emotions. When you look at an issue that you're not directly involved in, you have no emotional attachment to it. It's easier to come to a solution because it's not going to cause you any discomfort or pain. That's why judges are supposed to be fair and impartial. To remove their personal feelings and abide strictly by the law. It's too help them make tough choices.
So are we afraid of becoming uncomfortable or inflicting pain when we make personal choices? Sure to some extent that must be part of it. Fear must also play into it as well. Fear that our choices will not turn out the way we hope or plan. Fear that we are making a mistake. Fear of causing pain to the ones we care for. Fear of inflicting pain on ourselves.
Is this why very successful people are often times called ruthless? Is it because they have mastered the ability to remove emotion from their choices? That could be part of it. Perhaps they have simple made so many difficult choices that the process has become mechanical to them. They have experienced both the positive and negative impacts that difficult decisions create. So, would that mean the more decisions you make the easier they become? Is this where wisdom comes from? I guess that would depend on your definition of wisdom.
That's why it's important to enlist the aid of others when you are facing a tough choice in life. Will it make the decision easier? No. But, what it will do is allow us to feel more comfortable with the choices we must make. Knowing the mind of the people directly involved never hurts. Talk over tough choices with those it will affect. This includes younger children. Never forget the choices you make as their parent / guardian affect their lives too. Get their thoughts and opinions. Give credence to their worries and fears, even if your point of view is different. More often than not people come up with different answers to the same problem. Only by trying to pool together the largest amount of possible answers to a problem do we truly see the possible solutions that exist.
Remember, solutions are hardly ever black and white, they usually come in many shades of grey.
Did I make the right choice when I started to take the time to write these thoughts down in a blog?
You decide!
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Why do we second-guess ourselves?
The answer may be our emotions. When you look at an issue that you're not directly involved in, you have no emotional attachment to it. It's easier to come to a solution because it's not going to cause you any discomfort or pain. That's why judges are supposed to be fair and impartial. To remove their personal feelings and abide strictly by the law. It's too help them make tough choices.
So are we afraid of becoming uncomfortable or inflicting pain when we make personal choices? Sure to some extent that must be part of it. Fear must also play into it as well. Fear that our choices will not turn out the way we hope or plan. Fear that we are making a mistake. Fear of causing pain to the ones we care for. Fear of inflicting pain on ourselves.
Is this why very successful people are often times called ruthless? Is it because they have mastered the ability to remove emotion from their choices? That could be part of it. Perhaps they have simple made so many difficult choices that the process has become mechanical to them. They have experienced both the positive and negative impacts that difficult decisions create. So, would that mean the more decisions you make the easier they become? Is this where wisdom comes from? I guess that would depend on your definition of wisdom.
That's why it's important to enlist the aid of others when you are facing a tough choice in life. Will it make the decision easier? No. But, what it will do is allow us to feel more comfortable with the choices we must make. Knowing the mind of the people directly involved never hurts. Talk over tough choices with those it will affect. This includes younger children. Never forget the choices you make as their parent / guardian affect their lives too. Get their thoughts and opinions. Give credence to their worries and fears, even if your point of view is different. More often than not people come up with different answers to the same problem. Only by trying to pool together the largest amount of possible answers to a problem do we truly see the possible solutions that exist.
Remember, solutions are hardly ever black and white, they usually come in many shades of grey.
Did I make the right choice when I started to take the time to write these thoughts down in a blog?
You decide!
Photograph provided by:http://www.freefoto.com/download/41-11-18?ffid=41-11-18
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